Reading is dangerous

Dear Readers of the world,

Yes you who has a book in her hand. And you who has a kindle in his bag.
Reading is dangerous.
It exposes you to the beauty that lies within pages but rarely seeps into real life.
It makes you believe that a character as strong as the one you read about can exist.
It leads you to imagine a land more perfect than you’ve traveled to, grass greener than you’ve ever traded upon.
It sets you too free to be caged ever again.
Not by them. Not by yourself.
And what is that if not dangerous? Because the words you read were indelible. They changed you. And changed you for good.
But I know you’re not afraid to be dangerous. I know you will give up anything but reading. Because I’m one of you.
Wordily,
Literally and figuratively,
Your partner in crime.

Solitude

I make them run, when I need them to stay.
I say all the things I know I should never say.
I want them to hold me, to make it okay.
But to them I’m just another person, it’s just another day.
And they know I won’t hurt them if they just walk away.
And so they do, and so now here I lay,
Wishing that it was just as easy, for me to walk away.rh

The Kind Of Girl You Should Date

Date a girl. Date a girl because she’s a girl and she’s beautiful that way. Not because she reads books or is illiterate. Not because she dresses up or doesn’t.

Find a girl who challenges you. Don’t care about how many unread books she has in her bag. Don’t care about how much unused space she has in her closet. Care about how many unread looks she has on her face. Care about how many unused smiles she has on her lips.

When you buy a girl a cup of coffee, or buy her a bottle of vodka — if you do it just to get in her bed, she’ll know it before you do, whether she reads, or whether she doesn’t.

On anniversaries or birthdays, don’t gift your girl books — she can buy all she wants. Don’t buy her expensive dresses; she can buy all she wants and more. If you can, gift her life a much better story than the one she searches for. If you can, gift her all the next years of your life. Tell her you love her in a way she doesn’t expect. She’ll be much more happy and contented with your gift.

Date someone who’ll rather be with you than read. Be someone for whom she’d gladly put that book down for, when you go to meet her. Be someone who makes her life far more romantic than those silly romance novels. Be someone who writes poetry for her, which is far better and personalized than the drab novels. Show her that not all stories need a villain. Take her out to far more beautiful places than the books describe. Give her such a gala time that there’s no need for a plot, a climax — no need for an end — that at each moment, the cup keeps on overflowing. Show her that there is no need to read too much — that she can instead experience it first-hand. Date a girl who’s ready to experience all this — rather than read about it.

Be someone who finds no need to lie to her. Propose to her in a way that puts the heroes in the books to shame. She’ll give you a smile that’s worth more than a billion books. Be all this for her. But please don’t date her just because she reads.

Date someone who’ll rather be with you than go to a pub and be wasted. Be someone for whom she’d rather put that wine glass down, when you go to meet her. Be someone who finds her beautiful even when she’s wearing pajamas. Be someone who eases out her insecurities, who doesn’t let the routine get boring. Be someone for whom she’d rather stay up at midnight for a chat than sleep in with a hangover. Be someone who can listen to the music in her voice rather than sharing her taste in music. If the girl you date never made your heart oscillate with passion, it’s great — yes; because hearts were never made to oscillate. They were made to beat. Date someone who makes your heart skip a beat or two every time you see her. Date a girl who knows when to lend an ear to listen to you when you want to talk. Date a girl who can read the anger in your eyes, even though she doesn’t read books.

Be someone who doesn’t care whether she reads or not. Be the man who is dating her because he has started loving her.

Date a girl who has the guts to scold you when you do wrong and still love you like an idiot all the same.

The Little Things

The Good Thing and I differ on how we relate to things. I am really optimistic really quickly, and he is very cynical. This makes for fun conversation, but also leads to some banging-head-on-wall.

So, we went for a run today. My first in a VERY long time, and his first in a week or so. I went, fully prepared with playlist and app and looked up some stuff on the internet on the beginning runner. There’s an ideal workout, where you run two minutes and walk one minute, over and over ten times.

By the end of it, I had done two kilometres, which I thought was pretty good.

He was having none of it.

“You can’t just call yourself a runner because you strolled for a little while on the beach.”

“Two kilometres!” I said, stung, “I did two kilometres, NOT COUNTING how much time it takes to get there and back home again. Plus, I ran. I think we should do this every day to get into the habit.”

Meanwhile, I was thinking of the Delhi half-marathon in a couple of months, and how I should totally sign up. I was also imagining going to parties and people being all like, “Oh my god, you look so good!” and I’d be all modest and say, “I’ve been running.”

“I bet you’re thinking of running the marathon,” he said, laughing.

Sometimes it kinda sucks when someone knows you that well.

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Not our street but one in Goa. I’d totally be a runner here though

 

Pay It Forward

To kick off this year I’m participating in this Pay-It-Forward initiative: The random 3 people who comment on this post with “I’m in” will receive a surprise from me at some point in this calendar year – anything from a book, a ticket, a visit, something homegrown or made, a postcard, absolutely any surprise! There will be no warning and it will happen when the mood comes over me and I find something that I believe would suit you and make you happy. These 3 people must be willing to make the same offer in their posts.

Let’s do more nice things for each other in 2014, without any reason other than to make each other smile.

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